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Parenting is such a touchy subject because there are so many different ways of doing it, but does that mean that they are all correct? Well many parents would say that their parenting skills are the best or that they way they discipline is the most correct. Some have even said "Well the kids need to know who's the boss, they need a little bruising here and there"

there are three different types of parenting that I want to talk about

• Authoritarian-
  -the approach is to exercise maximum control and to expect unquestioning obedience .
  there is little give and take interaction between the parent and the child. it's the parent's way or no way. children don't have much thought or opinions in the matter.
  when there is dicispline involved it is physical and severe.
• Authoritative-
  -the approach is to put boundaries on acceptable behavior within a warm, accepting context.
  this is the best type of parenting there is. The parents create an environment where they have control to teach and impliment rules and consequences but the children have the opportunity to make mistakes and to choose whether or not they do the right thing. This type of parenting allows children to make mistakes and learn from them. It gives them the sense of being independent to an extent within certain boundaries.
• Permissive-
  -This approach is to minimize any control, children have the ability to live their lives the way they want to, with no responsibilities or discipline or control. Parent show little to no interest in the child's behavior or activity outside the home.
  
  
  *parents might approach the permissive parenting style to again friendship and love from their children.  
  
  
  *Aversive and nonaversive discipline are the two general types of discipline.
  Aversive is when there is yelling and spanking.
  Nonaversive is when there are toys being taken away, timeout, and when there is explanations of why a certain behavior is inappropriate.
  
  
  Interesting statistics
  African Americans are more likely to use spanking and yelling
  Whites are more likely to use timeouts and removal of toys.
  Those parents over the age of 20 are more likely to use yelling, adolescent parents are twice      as likely to use spanking as older parents.
  Spankins is more common among those of lower economical levels.