Don't you just love those moments in life when everything makes sense and you wish others could experience the same thing from a piece of information that could ultimately decide your marital satisfaction for the rest of your life?
Well today Someone said something that was profound and that anyone from any culture or religion could understand. She said "Marriage is based off faith, Cohabitation is based off fear."
So why is cohabiting becoming more and more popular not only in our society but all over the globe. Why do people cohabit?
- it's a test trial to see how marriage works.
- they want to make sure they are compatible with each other.
- afraid of commitment so they rather be able to get out of it if something doesn't workout.
- they want to be their own person.
- less responsibilities.
and so much more.
Today in class my teacher was telling us that there is a new law in Mexico City that gives out 2 year marriage licenses and that after that if you still want to be married and everything work's out fine, then you can get an "upgrade" of five years. Hoe ridiculous. If we start treating people with the expectation that marriage is going fail, then those who do deiced to go into marriage, will do so with the attitude of "it's ok if it doesn't work out because society expects that now."
In a world filled with so much temptation and so much deceit how do we know that the marriage we are going into is built on a solid foundation? or courting for that sake?
There are five steps that one needs to take in order to have a successful and healthy attachment and relationship.
- Know
- Trust
- Rely
- Commit
- Touch
these steps go down in this order, You must have High Knowledge of someone before you can trust them, you can only rely on someone you trust them. Once you realize they are someone who you can rely on then come the commitment, which in turn will allow for physical touch to increase to a certain level before marriage.
In cohabitation these steps are not followed. For the most part, people build a relationship on the touch with out really knowing them. They confuse feelings of love based on hormones and adrenaline.
A powerful and successful relationship can happen and we all want one, the thing is it takes time and effort and most of us aren't willing to put forth the work. I can attest from personal experience that when a relationship is based on the touch and your levels of the five attachments are all out of sequence, your relationship will not work. No matter how much you want it to, it won't. Love is a beautiful feeling, that like a plant, love needs to be nourished and taken care off. 
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