"mommy what does this mean?"

      Imagine reading a book my the fireplace on cold winter night when your seven year old comes up to you and wants to know about sex. What do you do? Do you scream and run away from your child yelling "No why now?" Do you sit down with your child and have them take notes as you give them the whole spill? Do you spank them and tell them to never say that word again?

     These among many others, are different ways parents tend to approach the "Birds and the Bees" conversation.

What should children know? and When should they know it? These are some important things to consider as you decided to have children and more importantly as they begin to arrive at that age when their mind wonders and they crave the knowledge that comes from the world around them. 

My first question is why do parents tend to avoid talking to their children about sex.

    In class we discussed how many parents avoid the "talk" with their children, out of embarrassment, a belief that the children are to young to know about sex and that it's best to tell them before marriage. The opportunity never came up, the child lacks "the right parent" to have that conversation with. There are many different reason why parents don't talk to the child. They tend to rely on the school to educate their child in regards to sex abstinence and what not.

The following is a list that we came up with in class about the Don't of children's Sex Education.

(It doesn't mean that they are all correct, or that you are a bad parent if you don't follow these guidelines. i personally really like them and i agree with them.)

Don't

• Shut down when your child comes with a question or concern.
• Wait till someone else talks to your child to bring it up. (School)
• Don't relay on the message that comes from the media.
• Talk about it just once. Allow yourself to be open with your child and vise versa. open lines of communication.
• Have only one parent involved in talking about it, instead of having both.
• Lie 
  It is so important for their to be lines of communication between both partners and between children. They should feel like they can come and talk to you at any point about anything. Sex is not a bad thing when it is done within the bonds of marriage between a man and a women. Sex is not something to be embarrassed about. It's a good idea to have both parents present when possible because it they will both have a different perspective or the reverence and sacredness of sex. Don't make it something where your child will be afraid or shy to come talk to you about.