There is a method that we learned in class that I want to share with you that will be beneficial for problem solving whether it is in you marriage or just simply trying to figure out if you should buy that new house or get a different job, whatever the problem or concern is, following these seven steps will facilitate finding a solution.
- Set time and place.
it is important to always have a place and a set time that you always talk about things, so for instance, having a spot in your home where you discuss family matters or finances will really help you be where you need to be mentally and there will be less distractions around. - Speak love and gratitude to each other.
You will never be able to get anything done if there is a spirit of contention among you and your spouse. There must be a spirit of peace and love around so that things that need to be taken care of will. This will also allow for both parties to have each others best interest at hand and not have an attitude of selfishness and pride. - Pray
Regardless of what faith you are, Heavenly Father wants to help you, he wants you to be happy and he has your best interest at heart, you are his child. Beginning with a prayer will set the tone for the kind of conversation the two of you will have. Expressing your concerns to him will show him that you keep his will in mind and it will show him that you are willing to be open to what he thinks is best for you and your family. - Agenda
Having an agenda will make your meeting run much smoother. You will have a plan and your thoughts will be more organized. You won't waste time, not will you be scatterbrained. - Discuss till consensus to the Lord's Will.
Be open to God's will will allow you to grow closer and ultimately make the right decision. - Closing Prayer.
Closing with a prayer will show God that you are thankful for what you have and for how the meeting went. He will be more inclined to bless you and to help you. - Refreshments.
The best part!!! after your discussion, you must enjoy some yummy refreshments that will allow you to not be so tense, especially if what was being discussed was adding tension to your marriage. It will help set the mood and remind you why the both of you are still married.